Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Wednesday Wisdom: This Halloween There’s a Minefield of Tricky Phenomena to Navigate


Say goodbye to the good ole days of frivolous trick or treating when your only worry as you counted your candy at the end of the night was whether some crazy lunatic stuck a razor in your box of Raisinets.  Today there is a minefield of tricky phenomena to navigate, each one scarier than the next and loaded with real-world consequences.  One wrong move and that monster lurking in the darkness is ready to pounce.  There’s no such thing as benefit of the doubt, only accusations and finger pointing stripping you of every last shred of dignity.  To ensure you are your most mindful and thoughtful this Halloween, don’t dare step a pinky toe outside your door without a quick review of our Halloween etiquette tips for this year and beyond.

Chuck the Culturally Insensitive Costumes. As far as costumes for children, the general rule is that they be age appropriate and kid-friendly. But recent events have proven that costumes must absolutely and should be culturally sensitive too. Respect for one other is of paramount importance and anything that even suggests appropriation of another culture’s dress or demeanor will be frowned upon. The same goes for politically charged costumes that incite. Don’t dare wear a MAGA hat or a Trump mask in mixed company. This is guaranteed to draw sneers and jeers. While we’re at it, let’s not forget menacing clown costumes or extremely scary horror costumes, these are still banned from schools and parties and are never acceptable. Ask yourself one simple question, "Is my costume disrespectful or would it offend or scare another person at the party?" If the answer is yes, then find an alternative choice.

If You're Old Enough to Drive...Trick or treating is a tradition reserved for younger children who look forward each year to dressing up in their favorite costumes and going door-to-door to receive unlimited amounts of sugary treats. Most teenagers typically lose their interest, but if you're sixteen and still stomping around in your scary costume, it's time to turn in your pumpkin bucket.

Treatin' In N Out of the Hood. It is perfectly acceptable to travel outside one's own neighborhood, particularly, for children who live in a canyon without sidewalks or who live in a neighborhood that is less than child-friendly. However, if you do decide to leave your hood, the next best thing is to trick-or-treat with a friend in their area or find an alternate place that feels comfortable and familiar. Wherever you choose, be respectful of lawns and gardens and use the sidewalks or pathways leading up to the front door. If a house is dark and all the lights are turned off, this is a signal that the family is not participating in the ritual or may not be at home.

Hosting & Ghosting Halloween Parties. Anyone with a birthday in October knows how much fun it can be to have a Halloween party. If you are hosting, be gracious and provide ample treats and entertainment for your guests. Encourage everyone to come dressed in costume to help set the tone for the party. A little spooky music adds to the fun. Make sure to be a good guest as well. Don't ghost your host by not responding to an invitation and never show up empty-handed. Bring a birthday gift or host gift for the party-giver as a thank you for including you in the festivities.

Safety First on the Night of Fright. Begin trick-or-treating at dusk while there is still some light for safety. Sidewalks and lawns lined with electrical cords can be dangerous. Come prepared with flashlights to make sure you do not trip or fall. Have supplies on hand for emergencies. Keep a couple of Band-Aids and Neosporin in your pocket should minor accidents occur. Make sure to look both ways before crossing the streets. Although there are more pedestrians out than usual, it is still dark and drivers may not see clearly. Adults and children should stick together at all times. There is nothing more treacherous than trying to track down a small child in the pitch black of night.

Tricks within Reason. Halloween is meant to be fun, but never at the expense of others. Contrary to what we might see on television or in the movies, it is not an opportunity to toilet paper a neighbor's front yard or throw eggs at their front door. It also does not give one free reign to steal or damage pumpkins or other decorations. It is wise to stay away from anything that could potentially cause property damage as these types of pranks are not only dangerous but illegal. If pranks and tricks are a must, try creating an imaginative fun house or haunted house for your friends and other guests to experience.

There's a Trick to Getting those Treats.  There is an unwritten social contract that will get all good-willed trickers the treats they seek.  Just utter the words 'trick or treat' graciously accept your one piece of candy and be on your way thank you very much.

Teal is the New Orange.  NOTE FOR KIDS WITH NUT ALLERGIES: The Teal Pumpkin Project is an organization designed to raise awareness for kids with peanuts and tree nuts food allergies. If you see a Teal colored pumpkin, it is a signal that a home is handing out non-food treats. Whether a non-food or candy treat, teach children to be patient and polite and limit themselves to one piece unless more is offered. Remind them to say please and thank you and try not to crowd or stampede the doorways.

General Halloween Etiquette Tips. Halloween is a perfect "training" time to teach children how to mind their "P's" & "Q's." After just a few house visits, your two-year-old will be an expert! At least one parent should accompany all children up to the age of twelve. Trick-or-treating should generally end around 9pm as most families with children and older adults are preparing for bed by that time. Parents should check the treats of the younger children before they eat them. Children should never eat anything that is handmade, unwrapped or specially prepared unless they personally know the family.